Have you been ghosted before? You probably have and didn’t know it. I would say mostly that women do most of the ghosting, from what I hear (wink wink). Everyone has their own definitions of what ghosting means for them. From the Urban Dictionary, it says that ghosting is “when a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice before hand.” Basically, when someone reads your text and don’t reply; or yall stop hanging out when you just hung out last week. This has been happening since the beginning, but now this new generation has coined it as ghosting. So why do people ghost? It’s a plethora of reasons as to why someone would ghost a person. Maybe they don’t want to hurt the other person, or they honestly don’t care about their feelings. When you go on that first date and you know instantly its not going to be another date, but that person is really feeling you. Instead of telling them its not going to work, you just stop replying to their texts or take hours to response back hoping they will get the hint.
HuffPost provides the chart above which mostly verifies what I stated earlier that women do most of the ghosting. It also mentions “there are many psychological reasons why someone ghosts, but at its core, ghosting is avoidance and often stems from fear of conflict.” As a fellow “ghoster”, I do think about the other person’s feelings, but most people are not like me. Unless, they are just a f*ck boy that’s not worthy of anything. I can say that I have been working on becoming a better “ghoster” by being real about how I feel and telling them straight up its not going to work out. Overall, it has helped me be more open and honest while not worry about any backlash because I’m just being the real me.
On the other side, I recently been ghosted. Yes, if you made a face while reading this, I probably made the same face when I realized it. Like damn, I see how guys feel when I do it. Luckily, the person wasn’t anything serious, just someone fun to hang out with when I wanted a friend. Really though, it has made me rethink about ghosting people and considering the other people. But…I am feeling petty and thought about texting dude that “I can’t believe you ghosted me” (Haha).
Let’s try to help people who are being ghosted and just be real since that’s what everyone says they are nowadays.